It’s true in life there are some things that are out of our control, but there are also many things that are absolutely in our control. The key is to discern between the two.
There were so many things in my life that I thought I couldn’t do. For example, I convinced myself I couldn’t run a 10K. I woke up one day and actually said aloud “Why can’t I? Who says I can’t?” Well, I said I couldn’t. I thought I wasn’t athletic or a runner. Why did I think that? Because I was living in an old belief. I believed that I would always be uncomfortable in my own skin. I believed that I was too big to run. When I was growing up, I was raised on a farm which was 20 minutes from town. My mom worked full-time opening a business, and so I wasn’t into organized sports. Having said that, I also didn’t want to be either. I believed that I wasn’t athletic. It just wasn’t my reality.
Recently I was attempting to do two sets of tricep push ups….well I could only get through one set. I find tricep push ups so tough to do. I was immediately discouraged. How was I going to be able to do two sets when I had a hard time getting through one set? You know how? I just have to keep at it! I have to continue to challenge my muscles, and guess what…I will get stronger! It’s a fact.
It’s the same with one’s mind-set. If you are replaying the same old beliefs in your mind, and it’s not serving you in any way, the way to overcome it is to challenge that belief. Keep challenging it. When your mind says “I can’t”, then you need to challenge it. Why can’t you? Who says you can’t? WHY do you believe you can’t…get the heart of the tired belief. Most often than not, it’s our own mind that says we can’t do something and it’s based on a past belief that no longer holds truth for us (and did it ever hold any truth in the first place?!).
I have many old beliefs. I have started leaving sticky notes on the mirror at the gym. They say something different each time.
“You are more powerful than you even realize”.
“You are enough.”
“You are beautiful. Be good to you.”
I have no idea who notices them or if it affects anyone, but I do know that if I was looking at those notes before starting my work out, it would lift me up and start things off on a positive. They challenge inner-beliefs that I struggle with. I do realize this is a bit odd. But, I keep writing those pick me up notes in the off-chance someone else struggles and needs to hear it.
Also, most recently I have decided to embrace my odd, geeky side! Hey, it’s part of who I am. Authenticity builds relationships of trust, value, & respect. So just be you. We are all flawed. It’s OK, because it’s honest & refreshing in all actuality 🙂 Maybe it’s weird to write strangers sticky notes who I never actually see reading them (unless I hide behind the garbage can which is a weird stretch even for me). Whatever, I’m weird. I write pick-me-up sticky notes because my heart tells me to. ha ha
The other day as I was getting ready in front of my mirror I thought to myself “I hate my legs.” I had to snap myself out of it, as much as I have challenged those old beliefs, they still crop up from time to time. My next thought was, if I truly believed I hate my legs, then I should have no problem approaching someone who’s in a wheel chair and say “hey, how are ya? Do you know that I hate my legs.” Humbling moment. I’m thankful that I have healthy legs. I’m so excited to ride my new bike. Bring on the sun and cleared biking paths! 🙂
Be good to you. You are worthy. You are enough. Challenge those tired old beliefs. Forget about status quo. Give yourself permission to really look within your own heart and follow the path that is right for you. Trust yourself to make the healthy choices that lift you up.
And then when you are in a place of strength, you spread the love. Love, strength, and positivity are contagious. 🙂
From my heart to yours,