I received a message from a friend that made me think on the topic of Goal Setting. She has read Miracle Morning and asked how I set up my goals, especially if my personal goals may not align with another within my circle of influence.
I’ve always operated under the idea “You do You, I do Me”. All that means to me, is the only person I can control within my life, is myself. I have zero control over anyone else’s actions and reactions.
My choices, actions, dreams, belief systems are mine alone. I find that knowledge empowering, rather than defeating. It allows me to let go of control within my environment and set up what works for me.
Would it be nice if everyone around me just naturally aligned with my value system and thought process? I have come to the conclusion, it’s quite the opposite.
I have learned more about what works for me from having opposing beliefs around me, than with like-minded people who share similar beliefs and goals. While it’s important to create a circle of influence/support network with like-minded people, don’t underestimate the power of those who challenge your values/goals/and beliefs. Look at that as a way to further strengthen your self-efficacy and authenticity.
My goals have changed over the years, and I’m so grateful for that. I’ve had years of focus/hard work/diligence within my health and wellness followed by years of balance/gentleness/slow-it-down.
For every yin there’s a yang. And it’s important to not only foster that balance within myself, but to appreciate the opposing side within other’s who challenge my ideas. It takes me out of my comfort zone and then brings me back to centre.
This is a learning process, always. What has worked for me yesterday, may not hold true today. The body and mind adapt quickly and settles into a new normal. Just like strength training, you can’t just do the same thing over and over and expect new results.
So look around your life, what areas do you feel out of control within? That’s where you know there’s work to be done.
Focus your mind everyday on intentions: thoughts which becomes things. Dreams manifest into action. And when those seeds of doubt creep into your mind, know you have the power to stop them before they grow and multiply. You have control there.
What are you going to do differently today to challenge yourself?
How can you live outside of your comfort zone today so you can grow?
If your environment is full of chaos, what can you do to centre yourself and bring a little zen joy into your heart?
For me, that’s what my gym time is for. It’s like uncomfortable meditation. 😉 But oh my, the joy and pride I feel after is unmatched.
I also spend an hour each morning reading, journalling, and focussing my thoughts on gratitude, positivity, and contribution; along with the knowledge that not only do I have enough and I am enough right in this moment; but that will also stand true in my future.
Shift your perspective and you will always feel wealthy and rich in spirit. By doing so, it puts me on a different frequency of abundance and grateful/whole-hearted living and amazing experiences/people/opportunities have come my way out of nowhere. It’s true!
Happy goal setting my friends.
From my heart to yours,