I had a conversation with a woman who is pregnant with her first child. Newly married, full of hope and excitement for this stage in their lives. I could relate to her as she spoke of her hopes and dreams for her and her baby’s future. The stage where it morphs from a marriage to a family.
As conversations go, I reminisced about that time in my life. I could clearly see such parallels within our experiences. I was brought back to that excitement within my reverie.
I can’t recall the exact wording she used, and it wasn’t offensive to me, but I realized within our similarities, she saw me differently. Now, there’s no denying I’m a 40 something divorced woman with adultier kids.
At that moment within my mind I said “Oh, she thinks we are different. But we are the same.”
I share this not to criticize her, but rather because it convicted my own spirit. I realized I often see others as “different from I” which causes a division rather than a connection with others.
I have struggled with feeling judged in the past, but how am I feeding my own judgments of others if I can’t recognize how we are the same?
Perhaps it comes with wisdom that builds from life experience. Or maybe it comes from the gift of humility through loss.
There is something so freeing and comforting when you realize we are all connected within our dreams, goals, hopes, desires, failures, fears and trials. Beautiful connection, we are not alone. We are all navigating life the best way we know with the knowledge and tools we were given.
We are the Same.
At the root of “same” is feelings.
Working Moms or Stay-at-home Moms: we have the same love for our children. We lay awake at night worrying about their futures and vowing to do better the next day. Whether you are a Mom to a newborn; or a Mom to a 40 year old (Love you Mom).
Married or Divorced: There is no perfect marriage. Some make it through those waters, and others choose a different path; but I would hazard a guess that all who walk down the aisle do so with hope and a whole lot of love.
Those who have children; and those who choose not to have children: We all feel purpose. We will live our purpose how we see fit; the urging of our spirit to pour our heart into something greater than ourselves. We will find fulfillment in life our own way.
Faith: There are so many religions; I won’t pretend to know the doctrine of each. I do know that I’m called to love; to give more than I take; to serve others and spread a little compassion..and that’s about all I know. We are the same within love.
I think as humans; we seek to understand…and when we can’t understand another’s viewpoint or choices; we just see difference. But *what if, we seek out those elements that unite us. That we can relate to; in even the tiniest of ways.
Focus on what we stand for; rather than what we stand against.
So today, I will seek out the same. I will look for ways I can learn from others and practice listening to understand. I will celebrate that feeling of unity. I will be grateful for the gift of life lessons which have bred compassion, empathy, and wisdom.
We are the same.
From my heart to yours,