The Gift of Sight

Sometimes in life, circumstances around you align with your own life and there are clear lessons to be learned.  Revelations arise that were always right in front of your face the whole time, but you just weren’t at a place to see them clearly.  Wisdom that you once heard takes on new meaning and you finally understand it.  I had these moments happen over and over to me in the last few days, and as it seems it’s happened to many special people in my life as well.  Although our experiences differ, is it a coincidence that we are all seeing life with a fresh new perspective?  I don’t think so.

People come into your life for specific reasons and at different points.  Some people come into your life to teach you how to…..


laugh at yourself

let go

appreciate life

Others come in to teach you how to….

be real



get back up

And you are part of other’s life as well for the same reasons.

But, I believe that the only time that you truly learn is when you are ready to take off the blinders and look deep within.  I have spent much of my life stuffing things down, but eventually they will come to the surface. 

So, the most important life lesson I have seen in a new light this week is that I am the only one responsible for my actions, reactions, and attitude.  Until I stop blaming others around me for why I am unhappy, and take responsibility for my life, I won’t see the lessons to be learned that are right there for the taking.  There is no power that comes from waiting for others to change my life…from waiting for circumstances to change in order to make ME happy.  It’s all on me. 

I don’t think a person can fully understand that until they are ready and have come to that place of total acceptance that they must look inward for change.  The only person you can control is yourself. 

When you start taking responsibility for your actions, and take control of how you react to circumstances that happen in life…both good and bad…it’s only then that you can truly be free to heal and grow. 

I’m almost 7 years into reclaiming my life, and I’m just now beginning to understand this.  There is still so much to learn.  But the best part is, that I’m in control of keeping my eyes wide open and not just hearing about these life lessons…but actually LISTENING and APPLYING it all to my life.

I first saw this video when I was at a very low point in my life.  Even though one may view it as depressing, I find hope and wisdom within the lyrics and images.  The hope is the promise that I have control of my life the and knowledge is right at my fingertips if only I chose to listen.

My hope is that you and I will see life with open eyes without the cloud of blame, resentment, or doubt.  Not everyone will understand where you are coming from and that’s OK as they haven’t walked in your shoes.  It’s like when someone that doesn’t have kids yet tries to tell you how to raise your own.  They just don’t understand that which they haven’t lived.  I hope that makes sense to someone else!  It’s a hard one to articulate. 🙂

From my heart to yours,